When I was a little girl, my mom said I liked playing all by myself. She said I could play for hours just creating a whole new world. I find this true even today. Sometimes I think I am my own best company. I can entertain myself for hours and have the best time when I’m completely alone. I truly enjoy spending time with friends, but I’m also quite happy in my own company. It’s easy for me to make friends even as an adult. I’m beginning to realize that for most people this isn’t the case.
Sometimes I find myself confronted with people who want to be my friend and it just isn’t a natural fit. It’s awkward and doesn’t feel quite right. So I tend to avoid these people. I’m not rude…just not overly friendly. There are a few people in my life right now that are unpleasantly persistent about this. Recently, one of my friends told me that another girl told her about how she really just wants to be friends with me but can’t seem to make it work. Really? For years, I’ve felt this girl watching me and at times, it felt like she would watch me and then emulate whatever I did. It was a little creepy.
If it isn’t a natural fit…why not move on? Why try to create a relationship where there isn’t one? Sometimes I meet someone and instantly know it’s someone that would make a great friend. This year, I met two of these people and knew within 5 minutes of meeting and speaking to them. It’s always fun to discover a new friend or someone who is like minded. But I think it’s also just as easy to know instantly when someone isn’t going to become a friend. If friendships aren’t natural they shouldn’t be forced. I believe that trying to make them happen is awkward and somewhat unhealthy.